Have you ever felt confused (emotionally) about happiness? Why don\u2019t you experience it more often? How come it plays \u2018hide n seek\u2019 with you? Why does it seem so far away when you most need some?<\/p>\n
I would like to express some thoughts with you about HAPPINESS \u2013 WHOLENESS and BALANCE. Seems everyone is after Happiness almost to the expense of experiencing \u00a0other emotions and being OK with them. \u00a0It kind of throws things out of balance and makes you feel off pretty quickly when you experience other emotions \u2013 the unpleasant ones tend to stay around longer (you get stuck) and you find it difficult to shift Modes.<\/p>\n
The world makes us upset with ourselves if we\u2019re not happy and we stop to analyze ourselves \u201cWhy is that? What\u2019s wrong with me? Why aren\u2019t I like other people who seemingly have it together? (they put on their best and don\u2019t show their real side)\u201d<\/p>\n
Carolyne Leaf (a clinical neuroscientist) says \u201cHappiness is knowing where we belong\u00a0and knowing why we are alive, regardless of what is going on in our life<\/em>. It is not so much a smile as a state of being that<\/em> includes moments of<\/em> sadness and anger.\u201d In other words, it is not the absence of them.<\/p>\n Happiness is a state of being where upsets and sad moments are allowed, not forbidden. You could say that happiness has a rest mode that takes things in it\u2019s stride, not stopping to think what\u2019s wrong if an outing or a day is not to your liking. It doesn\u2019t say \u201cthis is not my day\u201d if things are not going right \u2013 it does not feel threatened by a change of feelings because feelings are fickle. So often, they are not a true indication of where things are at or where they could be. So a happy state of being is not dependent on circumstances to be at peace and it does not need a quick fix happy joy experience to keep it alive. No, it doesn\u2019t look for excitement all the time to feel at ease.<\/p>\n One feels more restful, more assured when unrealistic expectations are kept in check and we find the balance. This is possible for you, it is not out of the question and it all starts with adapting to a better outlook on Happiness.<\/p>\n Whereby you discover it\u2019s a Happy Mode, instead of a \u2018lucky dip\u2019 thing that is highly dependent on what you get and what you do (those are unrealistic expectations). Yes happiness is more sure when it\u2019s found within, not so much on without. True happiness affords more peace, more optimism and it knows the art of contentment. So many people respond poorly to the mention or thought mistaking it for something negative but true contentment affords more happiness \u2013 pretty much on a daily basis. I kid you not, more happy days are found with contentment than without and more readily sustained.<\/p>\n And what\u2019s wrong with Happy Moments? There are many more of them if you\u2019re not detaining yourself to an unhappy mode. If you don\u2019t have much to be happy about, how about Happy Moments? They are more plentiful than days if your outlook\/attitude is right. Oh yes, collecting them, so to speak \u2013 counting our blessings (big and small) can sometimes make you feel ten feet tall.<\/p>\n Let yourself experience a range of emotions \u2013 not being too extravagant about one or the other, the happy or the sad (overly excited or very upset) and you will find more peace of mind. People are often confused about happiness often, mistaking it for excitement and the absence of excitement. I think deep down everyone is looking for peace of mind, so they\u2019re looking for something to give them a lift.<\/p>\n Settle it in your heart and mind, you\u2019re not looking for happiness outside of you, it can be found within\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026<\/p>\n It\u2019s a Mode you live in. Switch it on each day until this way of life becomes part of you.<\/p>\n Really speaking, we need to experience a range of emotions \u2013 not just happiness. In this world are repetitive messages \u201chappy, happy, happy\u2026\u2026.get, get, get\u2026\u2026buy, buy, buy\u201d we\u2019re expected to be at our best all the time, we\u2019re programed by commercials to get, get, get and buy, buy, buy. TV ads and programs cause you to be discontent with your possessions, relationships and achievements. Even if you’re happy with what you have, those commercials tell you “No, you’re not happy until you get this or buy that” (so to speak).<\/p>\n No wonder most people are not in a happy frame of mind, with all that bombardment. So many people feel plain mixed up on the inside \u2013 consciously or otherwise. When you see those things for what they are, and start backing away from all that influence, you start to get somewhere.<\/p>\n For starters, one needs to start backing away from so much TV Time \u2013 viewing it so many hours is not healthy for your brain, your eyes or Family Time. That will actually ease the congestion of constant stimuli in your \u2018Day and Evening\u2019 overall, and free up some time you say you don\u2019t (or ever) have to really relax, build up your relationships with loved ones by having some quality time together, doing things as a family or contacting friends if you are single. Maybe engage in a new interest \u2013 a hobby of some kind.<\/p>\n \u00a0This helps to bring you back the balance into your life\/lives for better decision making etc whereby you can keep building some substance into your life\/lives and you can start to feel like your house is a HOME, not just a residence where you live. Honestly, as you can see_ much of what is referred to as \u2018The Norm\u2019 these days is \u2018Far From Normal\u2019 and what I described is having a toll on people\u2019s health and well-being.<\/p>\n Sometimes we need to distance ourselves from the usual run of things to find the inspiration for what we would really like to do. For instance, we\u2019re not going to get ideas while sitting down watching TV at length or texting over cell phones and social media excessively \u2013 we need to have \u2018Time-out\u2019 for ideas to spark or come to mind.<\/p>\n In order to experience Wholeness as a person, we really do need to experience less artificial stimuli\/environment like too much TV and Tech and open ourselves to new interests which are practical like a hobby of some kind, whatever, to discover ourselves again or maybe the first time if you were brought up in a TV and Tech environment.<\/p>\n Believe me when I say that you do not need to be a HAPPY PERSON so much as a WHOLE PERSON so you\u2019re unthreatened by other emotions, you can manage them better in various circumstances instead of feeling hemmed in or crowded by them. You can see things in perspective \u2013 we are created to function better this way. We\u2019re more flexible and adaptable instead of being at the mercy of \u201cHappy or Unhappy\u201d\u2026\u2026\u2026.that theory hasn\u2019t done us any favors. Our emotions become more rounded instead and we\u2019re well-adjusted.<\/p>\n Friends, may I suggest to you \u201cThis is the way to be Happier People\u201d not with the absence of other emotions but regardless. Good wishes to You and God bless!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n PS: Carolyn Leaf wrote an article called The Happiness Myth. The spirit of the world has certainly made it into one with the change of focus they impose on you, don’t you think?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever felt confused (emotionally) about happiness? Why don\u2019t you experience it more often? How come it plays \u2018hide n seek\u2019 with you? Why does it seem so far away when you most need some? I would like to express some thoughts with you about HAPPINESS \u2013 WHOLENESS and BALANCE. 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